10 Nov: sacking maid part 1

I knew the stupid one couldn't last long if I keep exposing her mistakes. She's the kind of useless emo type who is so self righteous. 

So after repeated days of pointing out her mistakes, she finally call it quits herself or perhaps she thought she can use "termination" to blackmail me. Too bad, I don't get threaten by your stupidity. So I told her I accept. The story goes 

Monday is grocery shopping day and again instead of asking my husband for money, she hassled me again. I got really fed up coz I'm tired n was rushing to prep milk n there she is again, bloody hindering me. I asked her "next time can u ask sir for money and stop asking me in the morn?" It's like she think I'm

Damn free? I ask her where's the shopping list and meal list. She gave it to me and i was fed up again 

After 3-4 days of telling her no chicken, she wrote "braised chicken" again. After telling her 3 days no chilli, she wrote "tofu with chilli" again. Told her just steam fish before and she wrote "braised fish ( which needs to fry first) is she an idiot? Wait. We have established that already. 

So I crossed out every thing and I looked at her shopping list. Again she wrote squid when we told her before, don't buy seafood unless you cooking that day. No where in Monday Tuesday dishes were there squid. There are 2 packs of new eggs, she still want to buy eggs. Tell her buy green vege, she still buy bean sprout and hairy gourd. See what I mean by stubborn mule? 

After I cross out her rubbish list, I left money on table for her. My mil walked to me saying she cooked congee for everyone. I told her to check with maid lunch menu. My mil asked n came to me "I dunno what she is saying she's mumbling. I think she say beef and chicken." "I thought I told her no chicken???? Please tell her no chicken"

I was rushing off to feed baby m take him to see doctor so I didn't bother to question my mil further. Just before I left home, I didn't trust my maid so I went kitchen to look. I asked her "what r u cooking for lunch" she just replied "beef"

Me: what beef? Can you please describe and elaborate how u r cooking the beef. I don't understand you. 

Maid: (silence) took a plastic bag n dump the contents on table showing enoki mushroom. 

Me: so u r doing beef roll wrapped enoki. Can u don't pan fry just grill

Then I left. 

I came home with baby first while my mum go wet market to get fish n soup ingredient. I put the baby to sleep n came lunch, I saw braised chicken next to beef. 

I waited till I finish lunch n she was clearing plate to ask "how come there's chicken? I Thot my mil told you no chicken?" My maid said "oh nai nai says she wants to eat chicken" I don't believe her but I kept quiet n walk away.

My mil came back ate her lunch but chicken remained untouched. I asked my mil "I Thot u told her no chicken?"  My mil said "I did. I told her but she say she wants to cook chicken coz the chicken in fridge very long already. So she ask me can I eat the chicken. I told her if she must cook chicken then I eat abit but the rest of family coughing and will not eat."

So u see the difference? My mil will not lie. She will not change story. Yet my maid version n my mil Varies n I believe my mil. I didn't confront stupid one. I just mark it down. 

My mil wanted to cook soup and fish for dinner. I was helping her prepare and making her fruit juice for her. I just ignore the useless one. We were in the kitchen happily chit chatting n ms tantrum went to her room and shut the door. I went to open the door coz when door is close there is no air movement n kitchen is hot. To my annoyance, the bitch lock the door. We told her before unless she is changing clothes, she cannot lock the door esp since we also need to access laundry area n our handy tools are there. I knocked on the door twice no response. So obviously not changing. I repeated knock on the door still no response. I was pissed. I walked out to look for maid keys. Just as I found it, the bitch open the door. I walk back to kitchen and saw she paste this huff puff note on the door. 

In short she wants me to terminate her because she says I'm not happy with her work and she is very stress and she is not perfect. She say she try her best. 

In my head I think if this is your best, bless u when u r not. 

So I told her "I accept your resignation. U tell me the dates". I went to the room to print out official letter template from HK immigration labour division. 

I knew bitch expect me to terminate her but I refuse. I insist it's resignation. She stood there defiant refusing to sign saying that she wants termination. I told her she raised the issue of not able to work so she is the one resigning. I will not write as terminate. She will carry on working as I demand if she don't resign. She keep shaking her head saying no, she wants to be terminated saying she wants to find new employer. I refuse to back down either. 

The reason I refuse to state terminated is this. If terminated I have to pay her off during the one month notice if I want her out of my house earlier. If she resign, I only need to pay her till the last working day. If she choose to leave early then she has to pay me back the 1 month notice remainder. I don't intend to benefit her esp when she has been pissing me off. 

She keep saying she's stressed and say when she need to pay for the kitchen sink cover. 

I was irritated n retorted" do u have bad English? Do u know how to read? I wrote if you damage the sink cover again the NEXT time, u will pay for new one. I didn't ask you pay for this one did I?" She cried n keep saying in raised voice "why I pay. I not intentional. It's not my fault the screw came off"

So I replied "when did I ask u to pay for this time? Did u pay? No. Did I take money from you? No. Did you get money deducted? No. So don't you accuse me of making you pay. I wrote NEXT time. I don't care if it's intentional or not because u damage, you pay. It's in the contract. Your job is to be careful. It's your job to make sure everything is in proper condition. It's your job to make sure you are not careless. I just bought this 2 weeks ago and u telling me you cannot tell the screw is loose? You didn't even bother to check. So I highlight to you your mistake now and warn u next time same mistake you pay. Why should I have to pay for your mistake repeatedly?"

She keep saying not intentional and shd don't have so much money to be deducted and I told her "then DONT be careless. If you are careful who will deduct your money? But your problem is if I tell you nicely you don't care or you forget. You don't respect me and my instructions. How many times did I make you pay for your other mistakes? Everytime you forget to buy things, or take things you bought, I have to pay for your bus trip $12. Did I make you pay for the bus? No. But my point is why should I be paying repeatedly for your carelessness? One time 12$. 10 times 120$. I can buy a lot of food with 120$. U are wasting my money and did I say anything to you? No. So don't you dare complain about me warning you from now on not to repeat your mistakes.

To be cont

7 Nov: Stupid one continues to be/ act stupid

Even if the stupid maid is not tired of hearing, I'm sick n tired of repeating myself. 

HANG the fricking clothes and NOT clip upside down!!!!

The fuckwit still refuse or too stupid to understand the word Hang??? She knows how to hang her own clothes correctly but when it comes to my clothes, she suddenly become stupid and don't know how to hang?? Which part of the instructions "hang clothes with hangers, don't clip upside down" that she cannot understand??? 

I caught her doing it last night but my mil quickly hang it. Today just 5 mins ago, she did it again. No wonder her former Sg employer want to punch her. She deserves it. She is sooooo stupid and stubborn and gives u black face that you really want to slap her silly. It's worse than talking to the wall coz st least the wall don't turn black and give u the irritated look. 

I refuse to rectify it for her. I stand there and hold the hanger and told her curtly "HANG. NOT clip." She stare at the clothes like morons do and then took it from me. God, how can anyone be soooooooooooooooooooooooo stuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuupid????

Anycase, now that I know we are gonna rid her, I shall contain myself for a while longer still our plan B can materialise. 

Stupidity does kill. It can shorten ones lifespan even if not contagious. Now I can understand why some autistic or even normal kids with very high IQ gets frustrated with us average joe. Just dealing with ONE moron maid is bad enough.

Lunch, I had to go out buy congee. Stupid one cook chicken yesterday and even though my mil told her we cannot eat chicken (when she was prepping fish to steam n stupid one was lingering in kitchen to pretend to be useful) , stupid one still wants to cook chicken for lunch. I don't even want to talk to her and just kept the chicken back in fridge. 

My hubby told her don't have to cook for us, we will go buy. She only need to cook vege. 5 mins I walk into kitchen and stupid one wanted to cook rice without even checking with us. Stupid one thinks she's being smart. I stop her saying "don't need to cook rice"

She will pause 10secs then give black face and walk back her room. 

It's ok. Keep walking back your room. Pretty soon u will have no room to go to when I boot your sorry arse out. 

6 Nov: the annoyance continues, part 2.

So while I was in the room with baby from 1.30-2.45pm, I have no idea what fucktard was doing outside since I didn't hear anything. 

I came out and she heard me and walk out pretending that she is going to start cleanin the living room. 

I asked her "Have you vaccum the carpets in living dining room?" She said "baby sleeping". I told her baby is not sleeping so she can vaccum before my in laws come back and want to watch tv. 

I finished saying that and was mashing baby food in dining room on the table when she starts to vaccum the dining room carpet. I look at her incredulously and asked "can u vaccum the living room first?" She replied "oh I finish here first." She just live to annoy me. I mean there's no one in living room and you cannot vaccum there first?? You just have to vaccum here when I'm prepping food and going to feed baby? you just keep demonstrating u r really brainless. 

So I told her off sternly "NO. U go vaccum living room first." The stupid one has the cheek to ask "oh only vaccum

Carpet?" I replied "of course you vaccum the WHOLE area right?!!!" Then she begrudgingly took the vaccum over. 

When I was feeding baby, she finish vaccum just as my in laws came back. They went marketing so that can make soup n steam fish tonight. We are sick of her cooking. She cook me chicken n prawns which are the worst food to eat when coughing. Plus the prawns are no good. So I didn't eat much lunch either. 

I notice the tissue box was almost empty. So I went to pantry to get new one while carrying baby. To my displeasure, the stupid one fail to follow my request to take all the boxes out from the packaging n stack them. I have told her nicely just few days ago to remove all the plastic because it's easier for me to grab a box when I'm rushing or with baby one hand. The fuckwit forgot again n didn't do wat I told her to. So I stood there and ask her "can u please remove all the plastic packaging? I told u before to remove it"

She stood there n still argue with me "oh let me vaccum first" I got really irritated with her. "I NEED the tissue now. Can you just go get it n remove the plastic"

The stupid one went to pantry grab a box  and put it on table. Then she wants to vaccum again when everyone was at the dining table. See what I mean she wants to do things HER way? I hand baby to husband n walk to pantry n the plastic packaging are all still there. She rather go  stand in living room waiting for people to

Leave from dining to vaccum then follow my instruction to spend 2 min to remove packaging. I swear I want to slap her. 

So in my pissed off mode, I remove all the plastic packaging and throw it on the floor. She can go pick it up. 

Guess what? She pick up the plastic and decided she won't vaccum anymore and went off to do other stuff when there's no one now in the dining room. I waited to see what she's up to and after half hour, still no sign of her. 

So I told my hubby to tell her to vaccum. I know I will yell at her if I were to face her. 

What do you call people like that? Stubborn Brainless fucktard. 

Thank god stupidity is not contagious.. 

2 Nov: Follow up..my man encounter with the stupid one

So after reading my note this morn, miss tantrum refuse to speak to me. Instead of 30mins, she took one hour to wash car.  Fine by me. The less I see your face the better. 

When my man woke up, I told him to ask the maid himself what happened to the cereal he requested her to buy 2 days ago, and again the query note he left her yesterday morn asking for cereal

I kept away from their conversation coz I can already predict what miss dumbarse will say. 

As expected, after my husband spoke to her (I overheard him saying "if you don't buy u need to tell me right?" ) her face was blacker than charcoal. 

My husband updated me an hour later after the stupid one left home making excuse she need to buy groceries. I didn't want to see her face so I let her go even though she has not done her chores. 

I asked him wat happened to his cereal since she refuse to explain to me. He said the stupid one said she went causeway bay and didn't see it. Hello? You know how many supermarkets there are in CWB? My husband said "you can get that everywhere what do u mean u don't see it? Also u need to come back, central Jason market is near the bus stop n u couldn't walk there to buy?" Then she changed her excuse that she forgot. 

My husband was annoyed by her attitude and told her "Look u need to tell us when you don't buy things that we instruct u n give money to buy.  For whatever reason u don't want to buy, u explain to us" she just kept quiet. She think keeping quiet is like super good of her. 

Anyone following my posts will know this is not the first time she refuse to tell us wat she didn't buy. Things for herself she will rem, for us she won't. My husband said to me " that's it. She's finished in my book. Gave her enough chances. We look for new help. This one is stubborn and stupid and nothing goes into that head" no common sense. 

My mother in law who is the nicest lady also weigh in that this maid has mood swings and black face. How dare she even give my in laws who did nothing to deserve her black face.

During interview we had specifically told her we don't want to see black face. We prefer open communication. Even after her first 2 tantrums, I told her I

Don't want to see black face but hey, does she care? No. When she was begging for a job, she of course will promise the sky. She forgets that we are not at her mercy, she is and this contract if terminated will be her 3rd unfinished job. Good luck on track record. 

So she went "grocery shopping" for 2 hours plus and just got back. She had NOT done any housework. I have already done 3 loads of washing laundry. The last load, I left it for her to hang. Even AFTER I wrote to HANG with clothes hanger, the MORON still clip the clothes to the hanger with the shirts upside down which is what I hate coz the water will pool down wards at the sleeves which is the hardest to dry and will stink. After correcting her for 5 months and she keep the clothes I hang for 5 months, you are THAT stupid to not see how it's being done not to Mention I have shown u and even write down instructions for you? If this is not deliberate defiant, then she is even more stupid than my dog. 

I text my husband that the rooms are not clean. His response was don't bother to talk to her, she's going to be sack. Only a matter of when. 

Honestly, I can't wait for that day to come. 

2 Nov : I think I'm almost done with my maid

I can't exactly point a reason, but I really dislike my maid. I'm not sure if it's her constant blackface when you point out her mistake, throw her tantrum or the fact she like to Question my instructions, or she is so damn forgetful and careless that it grates my nerves because that means I cannot relax around her. 

I try my best to close one eye when she falls short. That means working around her stupidity. For example

1. She consistently fail to top up my hot water thermal flask so that means I have to eat into my precious sleep time every night after midnight to fill up 3 flasks, and 2 drinking container. That's at least 20mins - 30mins gone 

2. I told her repeatedly not to pay for plastic bags but use recycle bags at home when grocery shopping at supermart. I showed her the mountain load of bags we have. There must be at least 20 bags of various sizes and thickness. Yet, just 2 days after I reminded her, she still went ahead to ignore my instructions and come back with plastic bag. If it was a very busy day I can understand but no, yesterday we gave her half day morn time off to

Go mongkok to fix her faulty phone (which she use to chat with her friends not for us). We were out the whole day so she didn't have to cook lunch. So there was no rush and yet she just conveniently ignore my requests. 

3. I told her out cooking knives set is very expensive. So please wash and dry immediately and put it back in the rack. Several times I caught her dumping my knives with pointed end downwards into the metal cutlery holder. She already blunt one knife but I gave her benefit of doubt but repeatedly she did it. I lead by example that everytime I use the knives, I would wash it myself n dry keep it but she still "forgets" or can't be bothered. To work round that and prevent myself from getting upset repeatedly, I took ALL my good expensive knives away n store in the baby food prep cabinet n leave her the crappy ikea knife and the good knife she blunted that she can abuse all she wants. To work with stupid mindless people like her, it's pointless being understanding n patient. I think 5 months is enough time to give her benefit of doubts n chance to correct her ways.

4. I told her my husband does not like her meat patties and don't cook that for him for meals. My husband has even told her himself. Yet repeatedly she put it as one of the dish in the meals planner I told her to write. So one morn last week, always at my busiest, she ask me to vet the list. I told her sir don't like meat patties why are u cooking that? It's not like she was asking first then buy ingredients. It's she already bought it and expect us to eat it anyway. Otherwise the ingredients goes to waste right? She give me black face when I told her to think of another dish. Too tired to talk to stubborn moron. So I told her "if u don't believe me, u can ask sir yourself when he wakes up if he wants to eat your meat patties

So she actually waited for an hour for him to wake. 

She asked him herself n my husband said no. No meat patties. She quietly slink out of the room n didn't say anything as she walk past me. I stopped her n asked "so does sir wants to eat your meat patties?" She said "no" with a stupid smile and went to kitchen. At that moment , I ask myself. "Why do u think u would know my husband better than I do? U r only here 5 months. Who do u think u r to try to overrule my decision or instructions?" I think that really rub me the wrong way that she actually thinks she might be correct n wait to ask my husband rather than just follow my request to cook another dish. 

5. Cooking. We repeatedly told her add less salt. She again either has a bloody plastic tastebud it again refuse to follow instructions. The chicken was so salty none of us inclusive of my in laws who like salty food can eat it. This must be the 5th time. I had it. I told my husband to tell her to strike the dish off the menu forever since she just won't listen. After we told her we won't eat it, she bothered me again hours later when I'm busy prepping baby milk to ask "wat to do with chicken". I told her "throw! No one can eat it" she looks clearly unhappy. I should be more unhappy coz that's like hk$80 down the drain for the chicken thighs. 

6. Told her don't put chilli in cooking coz my in laws don't eat spice. Ignore me. I felt bad when my in laws started to cough and choke at food at the chilli spice. In my head I was thinking "u fking bitch. U write on the fridge no chilli but still cook chilli" I was very upset with her even though my in laws didn't say much. But u know they reach their limits too when they rather eat out.

7. Repeatedly we tell her buy food or groceries, again, never inform us when she didn't buy it. My husband open the cabinet n asked me" where's the cereal?" I told him ask the stupid one. He wrote a note in the morn to ask her. Again she ignore his note and said nothing. I'll see what her moron excuse is later. 

8. I have shown her n told her to use hangers to hang to dry clothes. She repeatedly ignore n just clip the clips on the rack. The fan though on wasn't even blowing at the clothes but into empty space. U don't call that stupid? The reason I told her is clothes won't dry properly n will stink if she do it her way. Don't listen. 

So last night, I am so sick of talking to stupid one that I wrote down all the things she failed to do n the way to do it correctly. This morn she read the note but of course miss tantrum not happy and started to bang around the kitchen when she washes the plates. If that's not deliberate, I swear pigs will grow wings n fly. 

Last night I told my husband, I don't think I can last very long with this stupid tantrum cow. My quality of life is affected and she's constantly upsetting me. I don't feel peaceful. He said he leave it to me since she doesn't bother him much as he doesn't have to deal with her. So we decided to start looking again for new replacement. I think life is too short to be constantly upset at some one who is hopeless. 

I realise I really need to let her go when she is affecting the kind of person I am. I actually lost all sympathy for her! I don't like this negative person she is turning me into. That's a dangerous slippy slope when one loses the feeling to empathise with someone else pain. I say that because the other night, she was in kitchen waiting for the grilled pork to cook. I walked into kitchen to get pot to cook baby food and wasn't even talking to her. She asked me the same question "wat time is dinner" my same repeated reply "same time" thinking u already grill the pork, it's almost done. How can I Change time even if I want to? As my back was turn to her, I didn't see it but I heard her went ouch ouch oh my god. I turn around to see her holding her hand. I  didn't need to ask but knew she burnt her hand again while day dreaming.

At that moment, I didn't feel sorry for her. Instead in my head I went "again? How stupid can one be to repeatedly burnt herself in few months and not learn?" No one was rushing or distracting her either. She stood there going ouch and I told her, run under cold water before she move. The first few times she burnt herself I was rather concerned. I would help Ice her n find cream. 5 months on when she did it so many times, i got numb n Immuned to her. I just walk out of kitchen after telling her "ice it" I didn't feel a thing and that night I kept pondering, how could I not feel a thing? 

I get upset over injured cats n dogs or abandoned strays. I would tear seeing I'll treated people and yet before me this person told me she burnt her hand again, I had no shred of emotion except "again?!?"

That's when I know I'm really done with her. If I cannot feel for her, that means she's really invisible to me n she's turning me to this awful person I don't like. 

Wish me luck on my search for a better maid.

20 Oct: months on and my mum's damages is still affecting me

Morn 7am rant. 

Pissed off. Every other day I will discover something to piss me off. My biggest regret is agreeing to my mum's request to come stay when I was busy with baby and her getting involved in my new maid and now I'm slowly having to undo every single rubbish she taught her. 

People esp those who access my FB thinks I'm so relax and easy time coz my

Mum is here to help. If only they know how much "help" indeed. They will say oh your mum raised you and help baby sit before. Yah right. Just because she is a mother doesn't mean she can do everything. Just like not every educated person can be an effective teacher. Not every working person can be a good CEO. Plus when my mum was babysitting, half the time I was the one looking after the baby. I was 15yr old then n I still rem every single fucking changing towel nappy, wash bums, teething pains, fussing cried, shaking her to sleep in the swing thing etc. the only thing I didn't do back then was cooking and feeding baby. Otherwise the baby slept in my room, and I watched the baby after school, played with her, taught her ABCs, watched her crawl the first time, put up Xmas tree for her first time. Ahem. Why u think I put off kids so long. Coz I know how much fuckinv hard work is involved. Anycase I digress....

 I have only ask mum  to teach maid cooking but instead of doing that which she taught NOTHING. Maid asked her for recipe she tells maid "I have no recipe.i cook watever comes to my head. Maid ask how many teaspoon of sauce she will say don't know. Just estimate. How does that help????? Maid use spoon to stir sauce into meat, mum gets upset because she insists maid to use hand but we all say so unhygienic. Then mum gets upset with me saying I side maid. 

She told my maid to do things her stupid way and now I'm like reliving the slow nightmare of like living with my mum all over again. She had bitched about my new maid from day 1, complained to everyone who will listen to her.  I'm still getting feedback from cousins n relatives about mum bitching. 

When she was here, she complained the maid never wash the water container with filter. I told my mum specifically I do NOT want the maid to touch my filter coz baby will drink from there and I don't trust the maid's understanding of hygiene level yet but of coz will my mum listen? NO. Today I discover by chance my maid was washing the filter the wrong way my mum told her. I was pissed. Pissed because I told my mum not to tell maid to do things that I did not say but she ignored me, and pissed because I have told my maid to forget every fucking thing my mum taught her but she still forgotten wat I told her.

My maid got upset with me that I'm told her off sternly this morn. She went to her roo to sulk. After 15mins she was still sulking and I got fed up and went to her and told her to quit sulking and get to work. She stills want to argue that it was my mother who taught her and she's not at fault. I told her "u have no reason to be upset with me because we have told you repeatedly to FOrGET what my mum taught u but u choose to ignore what I tell you. So don't you dare throw tantrum at me". 

I went to attend to baby congee cooking and she storm up to the roof. I turn off the stove and went after her. I didn't hire you to fucking sulk n throw tantrum at me. 

She was talking on the phone and I

Ask her what is she doing. She mumble something and hung up. I asked her what's her problem and wat is she angry about? I reminded her did I not tell her I do not agree with my mum methods even when my mum was still here? Did I no tell her my mum ways were rubbish? Did I not tell her my mum was giving me stress and upsetting me everyday? Did I not tell her not to follow my mu way of storing food when she last check? Did I not side with her and argue with my mum when my mum scold her. I asked her I'm your employer, why would you rem things my mum

Told you but not something I remind you?i didn't shout at you or scold you previously because I know it was my mum BUT after she left, both me n my husband told u so many tea to forget what popo teach you but you did not listen. I list out every single incident where I had told her not to follow mum instructions n she finally calm down and agreed it was her own fault she forgotten to check with me about the water container. She was equally upset with herself when I told her, the reason is baby is affected, can you understand why I Am angry with you!? Baby is drinking that water too. She looked upset and says she knows why n she just didn't rem to check with me. So I told her ok after this, we will move on and just rem next time, check with me first. Anything that will involve baby eating drinking touching you will ASK me first if not sure. I ask her am I being fair? She said yes. I said ok. We will go back. 

Now I'm just thinking how many times she has contaminated my drinking jar with her fucking dirty washing gloves. My mum has left a trail of disaster with my maid even after months she has left n when one is sleep deprived, it really drives me nuts.

All the incompetent people

The lite one was nitemarish today. Don't want his breakfast, cry and cry and refuse his eve milk. I got really fed up n left him to his cot to cry n plug my ear phone while I wash the bottles. His father can either pick him up or let him cry. 

Either the father is hard at hearing which I doubt, or he just couldn't be bothered enuff till a full blown 10mins passed before he came to check. By that time I have finish washing the bottles. 

Anycase, he gone off to fetch his folks. I was having difficulty trying to feed the baby and he has to poo. Great. That means he isn't gonna finish his milk after 100ml. 

While I was so busy the home phone rang. I couldn't be bothered. The maid answered and came to the room, saying someone on the phone. 

Look Miss stupid, can't u see the baby is fussing and my hands are full? What do u want me to do? So I told her curtly "well find out who it is n TALK to the person. Can't u see I'm busy?

She went off n 1 min later say "it's sir's mum. They are at airport." And I told her "so? What do u want me to do? I'm not going to airport. They want to find him they should call him. "

I'm sick n tired of everyone looking for me. I'm not PA to anyone. He's your son go look for him yourself. He wants to dilly dally procrastinate to leave him it's your problem not mine. I wash my hands off. 

Meanwhile bloody landlord contractor fuck up again. I had to chase him for the faulty aircon remote after a month. The landlord pa call me back to say the fucker told my landlord nothing wrong with remote. I was shit pissed. The fucker again delayed his delivery of maid stairs replacement . From 10 days wait after 1.5 month I'm still waiting n chasing. Fucker. 

I'm surrounded by arseholes. Incompetent arseholes.

Why wouldn't u bring your key?!!!

There's a building power shutdown for 2 hours at home yesterday, so mummy took (spontaneous) refuge at her fav Starbucks since baby woke up from lack of fan:) thank goodness for free wifi here:) life is good. 

That is until the idiotic helper called to ask why didn't I tell her I'm heading out coz she didn't bring her keys when she went marketing and now she's stuck outside. 

My first reaction to her was "Why do I HAVE to tell you I'm going out?" It's like hello u ain't my mother and I don't even tell my mum where I'm going since I hit uni. Are u kidding me? Plus I gave you home key to use, that means u r expected to take it with u when u go out!!

In this case I was still 15min cab ride from home so I can cut short n go home. However what if I had decided to venture further? 

She replied that she didn't think I will be out. I feel like telling her don't think. Everytime u assume, you really make  a mess.

I didn't get too mad at her n she knows she screwed up. Irritating

Forgetting things is a norm??

I know my maid always forgets things, so I tried to help her by guiding her to make a list. Because she is so disorganised, I told her to write down what she intends to cook for each meal, plan and write down the ingredients ahead so that when she goes marketing, she is well prepared.

Yet even with such planning, EVERY alternate marketing days, she will come back after 3 hours and then tell me "oh I forgot xxx" So she will need to go out another 2 hours to rectify her mistakes. When it happens the first few times, I was ok and brush it off as accidents. However it keep happening every week and I'm getting annoyed. How do u forget things??? U pay and take the things n go. Once in a while I get it, but every other day? 

What annoys me too was how she NEVER tells us what she fail to buy, either coz not enough cash or whatever other reason. We don't have an issue with her missing out buying stuff due to lack of cash but we have told her before to inform us so that when we are out we can buy it on our way bank. However she just persistently keep quiet and I have no idea why. She will only tell us she didn't buy this and that on the night before and so she has an excuse to go out on a non scheduled marketing day. Then she will rush through the rest of the day cling cling clank clank while I'm trying to put baby to sleep n disrupt my day. 

Another thing is that she will change what to cook on her whim n fancy rather than what was planned ahead. So I would be expecting one dish but end up eating salmon again twice in a week. So instead of using the money I gave her to buy beef, she decided she wants to buy salmon instead. She just cook watever is easy for her and that again grates on my nerves. When u try to ask her why, she will always avoid the question and fob off with "u want me to cook something else?" I get frustrated coz she will not look at you n will never answer the question with a direct answer. 

I wish there is a database with maids profile and REAL feedback or testimonies against their work resumes. Of course this will never happen coz administratively impossible. Though I find it grossly unfair that employers have to bank on luck to hire an unknown maid, hoping she can do the job since there is no references on the past. Some employers will just lie since the maid is still with them in their last month. U do not know if the maid u hired has issues with former employer  or work attitude and yet this person will be working or u repeating her errors and staying in your place facing each other day in day out where employers do not have legal options to pay for live out options. 

There are many good maids n there are nasty ones. I am still undecided where ours stand. To be fair she is not all that bad compared to some others that steals, borrow from agencies etc but she has her moments. 

Changing maids seem like "easy" way out but it will be another 3-6 months learning from scratch and I don't have so much time n energy to waste on retraining a maid. By that time, I would not need a maid since my baby will be older. I would rather just hang in there and pray for miracle she will stop being so forgetful. Now she just does her things, I do mine and we stay out of each other's way. Good thing my flat is big enough where I can still have my personal space. 

I wish my previous help of 6 years didn't have to go back to Philippine. She was really good and having her was a joy and we can chit chat while she works and I never have to worry about a thing. Good help are sooo hard to come by. 

Irritating maid again

Everyday with my maid is frustrating. 

I told her to set up bank account with HSBC so that I can pay her salary. She waited two weeks but her ATM card didn't come. So she asked to go bank again. 

I told her to go on Tuesday morn first thing they open 9am n to buy some fruits n pack back food, don't have to rush back to cook. 

She came back 12.30am. And go about doing her stuff. I asked her, where's the mango since I didn't see it on the living room fruit plate. She gave me her fucking stupid blur look again. She ramage through the fridge and went "oh I forgot to take"

WTF. 

I couldn't even understand why she could be so shit useless. Cannot rem things all the time. She gave me that stupid moron then how face. I had to tell her "then go back n get it" so she wasted another 2 hours. Useless. 

She came back and I asked her how can she have forgotten? She said she's rushing a lot to do. I asked her but u are not even cooking lunch. Wats the rush? Now u forgot n waste another 2 hours. Is that better? She kept quiet. 

Everyday I must micro manage her. She won't give u details n she really borders on stupid. When we were changing machine and water was on the floor, the guy asked which cloth to use n she just say that that. I asked her which one, she just say that. I got irritated n have to ask her"can u just describe which one? We don't know wat is that? The red the White or the blue? " she still mumble heaven knows wat I just got so fed up that I grab tissue box instead. So stupid cannot even describe colours. 

Her brain honestly is shitter than a baby. She's a work horse. She just work without thinking but super disorganised n inefficient. 

I cannot endure stupid people n I really cannot stand her. Everyday she just annoys me with something. Today she annoys me again but I'm too tired to write more.

My mum thinks she's cunning n liar. No she is just plain stupid n forgetful and cannot accept people critiising her. 

I give her few more months. I really think of she pissed me off again I will just terminate her. Her cooking is mediocre and she refuses to follow cook book instruction n do her own thing whichever is quick n easy.

Maid birthday.

H4th sept. It's my helper birthday and since I rem she said she don't like cakes coz its sweet (during my mum birthday we offered her a slice of cake) , so I decided to just get a cupcake that isn't as sweet and she can just sweep the cream topping away.  Don't know if she liked the Sift cupcake since she didn't say anything but oh well, at least she won't feel like she's all away from home and no one cared. We gave her Hk$200 red packet just for her to get something she likes for herself. 

Good helpers are so hard to find n mine is annoying me

I don't know why some people like having a maid. If u asked me, I don't. I find them a total hassle and half the time they ruin my mood. Of course not all helpers are bad, but most are nothing but a bunch of headaches. 

We engaged a helper after we had a baby and her job only involves 2 things. Clean the house and manage the meals, which involved buying groceries and cooking. Everything that surrounds baby from washing milk bottles, laundry, caring for the bub will solely belong under my charge and she does not get involved. So it's already such a busy routine caring for the little one yet I still have to manage my maid in addition to my hubby is ridiculous. 

We were upset with her last sat. We spoke to her on Friday telling her what we have planned for sat meals. We told her we have bought beef and mushrooms and she can do enoki mushrooms rolls. I specifically asked her wat we have in freezer n she said fish. So I told her ok cook fish for dinner. My hub asked her to buy Japanese cabbage, broccoli on sat morn marketing so that we can use it on Sunday. We continued to add that on sat morn, please buy groceries for mon and tues as well. Then she can go marketing again on wed morn. So presumably she wrote down wat we instructed her.

Come sat night after an exhausting day and sleep deprived due to friday head accident of baby and monitoring him through the night, I was looking forward to a good dinner. Breastfeeding always makes me hungry.

I went to get my dinner and shockingly, the maid only cook a plate of green vegetables and another bowl of brinjal with minced meat. I was really annoyed because this is NOT the first time we told her I need good portions of meat in every meal. She just blatantly ignore or her useless head keep forgetting which we think is the latter. 

I asked her (note asked not shout) why didn't she cook the fish? She gave that stupid blur expression and asked "oh not enough?" Then she went to freezer and wang to take out prawns n cook her prawn egg (again). I stopped her and said "stop. Too late to cook anything now it's 8pm and we will be wasting food coz there's no way I can finish 3 big dishes".

I was really annoyed during dinner and both my Hub n I couldn't understand why she would often not do things as told? This isn't the first time she just swap wat she is suppose to cook to what she feel like cooking. It's very annoying. I'm more annoyed because I already go shopping to get the beef and other groceries for her and yet she cannot cook one simple fish dish as told. 

My hub asked if he needs to cook chicken for me I said don't bother. He asked wat are we doing for Sunday lunch and dinner and we thought about the chicken we bought on Friday. 

My hub went to the kitchen and checked and I heard him asking my maid where are the vege he told her to buy. Then a min later I heard my hubby asked her "why didn't you tell us these things? When we ask you to buy something you buy it. You don't have enough money, you come back and let us know and tell us. We can always give you extra money. You don't just keep quiet and don't tell us that you didn't buy a single thing I specifically ask you to buy. How would we know that you didn't get it? We don't check on you. We leave it to you to run the household right? So you need to let us know. You don't keep quiet."

The maid replied with her "no big deal" reply "I can go buy in the morn."

My hub "but that's not the point. The point is if I didn't check now, I didn't even know I don't have the food I need to cook. You will be off tomorrow and wat happens when I need to cook and I don't have anything because you didn't buy them and I thought you did?"

The maid replied "I didn't think you need it"

That really pissed me off and I told her off  sternly. "You do not think for us. You do not decide what we want to cook or do with the food we ask you to buy. Our plans are always changing and so we like to have those food prepared in advance. Just like I still don't understand why didn't you cook the fish we told you to do  so on Friday. Friday was not even a very busy day for you" ( because friday baby n I nap for 2 hours and honestly my house isn't that messy since the only rooms we used these days are the bedrooms and we were in it) 

I was already annoyed with her on Friday when she didn't even bother to do the laundry when we went out and when I asked her, she said she forgot. Forgetting to do laundry after 3 months on the job? Is that acceptable? She is soo freaking disorganised. She do not know how to manage her time to be efficient. She just know how to work like a brainless horse but things don't click for her. Just like the other day I told her to change master room bedsheets and clean the room first because my hub is coming home and I know he needs his nap. If she don't change it, it will be nighttime again. So she changed the bedsheets and then I didn't see her clean the room.

I went to kitchen to see her sorting out laundry. I had to tell her "don't do the laundry now. Go clean the room first coz you can always do the laundry after you finish the room." In my head I was thinking why do you not understand which task should be prioritise first?

So while she clean the room, I started the laundry washing just to save her time. Yet the next day when she has all the time in the world, she didn't do any washing. Does this make sense to you? I asked her and that when she said she forgot to check the laundry basket. 

Anycase back to sat. So you could see her face was black and moody shit again after we expressed our unhappiness with her lack of communication n disorganisation. She sullenly looked away as usual. These maid always think they are so wronged or victims but they don't reflect on their repeated mistakes. They think it's ok to slip up, and pretend nothing Happened. 

So rest of the night she has that black face and she went back to her room at 10pm as usual. Which is good coz I don't have to see her black face which really annoys me. I am paying you and u give me the feeling that we can never point out your mistakes and I meat repeated mistakes? 

So Sunday she went on her off which makes me happy. She came back when I was putting baby to sleep so I didn't see her the whole sun. Good. 

Today Monday, she saw me in the morn but still give me the black face n didn't bother to greet me. I couldn't be bothered to greet her either. I don't need to be politely greet u if you want to persist in your childish tantrums. Honestly I really feel like giving her the boot but my hub enjoy the fact that someone wash up after him, now that I'm busy with baby he thinks we need extra help though he said he will not retain her if she chooses to quit. 

So comes Monday n I'm pissed off in my own home because of a disorganised forgetful maid with a black face. Great. 

Thank god I don't need her to look after my child which I will never entrust her to do ever. I simply don't trust her competency and her memory. It's too risky. Who knows what she will forget. If she can't even do 2 meals properly (I have to cook my own breakfast to spare me more headache from her), who can entrust a child with her? Then again it was never my plan to involve a maid in my cha raising. She will always be a spectator and not involved. 

I know it sounds crazy but I look forward to the day I can sack her or she wants to quit. I doubt she will quit since her job resume is already peppered with bad record in singapore n HK, both with terminated contracts. In singapore she claimed her ex boss wanted to punch her so she left. In HK she said she was bullied by the other maid in same household and the boss side the other maid and do she quit after 3 months. Initially one wold sympathise with her but now after 3 months with us, I think there is more than meet the eye. She prob was never up to scratch and pisses people off and just that other employers had less patience and endurance than us. However I told my hub that when my boy gets older and easier to take him out after he starts on solids, I honestly don't care if she leaves. I don't need her really. 

We shall see.