Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Memory trigger

Was searching for something online and a familiar face pop up in one of the article.

Twice now I thought he was a dusty memories almost perished in existence but nope, once again, it is proven that my brain may be foggy about details but that call he put through donkey years ago left an indelible mark.

It's funny coz seeing face triggered a whole series of memories that has been tucked away in some compartment n I rem that call. That call that was too late. That call that he said he had loved me. Why m I still cringing I don't know.

Of course he's married now, I presumed so since it's an article about him n his partner setting a brand new business cafe concept in sg. I couldn't resist, being a woman or a bored mum curious for juicy gossip, to just want to know how does he look like now? Lol. Shallow I know... I know but hey, this is a guy who has once wore his heart on his sleeve n so I guess anyone in my shoes will want to see the Fave now.

Turns out he didn't change much. For a while he was chubby, not so nice.  Then he lost weight. Looks better. Hair still as funky lol. He seems happy with his two new love. He has always been a gentle guy so I think his new venture suits him. At least now I know where he works n I know exactly where to avoid bumping into him though I think he prob would hardly care.

I guess i kind of look back n second guess my decision in not telling him what he wanted to know back then n gave him a curt emotionless reply to get him moving along. I thought it was best for both of us. I think I did right but leaving an option as frens wasn't in my list then. It's thankful we don't have too many common frens.

End of memory trip

Sunday, September 18, 2016

Hair perm in sg!

After what seems like forever, I finally went for hair perm after 3 years hiatus. 

Since I have left HK, no more Ito San to do my perm anymore...:( 

I tried a local salon in orchard for haircut n my experience was terrible. The shampoo gal was a Malaysian and she totally tore my scalp off while washing. I didn't even realise it till i was colouring my hair n wondering why it sting so much n when I reach home, my scalp hurts. 
I could not even have rain shower water hitting my head coz it bloody hurts! Having been pampered by Ito San salon for so long the gentle washing, I had a rude shock back in sg. 

I looked at my head n saw two big angry red wound on my scalp on both sides!!! The stylist told me I must have scratched it myself while showering. I was like first I have no nails due to baby and secondly I never ever scratch my head with fingernails either! I know that since primary school ok! 

So my hunt for Japanese salon in sg begun. I came across art noise salon n Thot of checking them out first with cut n colour.

As expected, Japanese stylist never disappoints!

My stylist is shuji San n he arrived only just 8 months prior. However he was communicative about the style discussion etc. His English wasn't fluent so we tried Japanese though mine was terrible. I have forgotten so much after lack of use in 3 years. Still we managed lol.

Due to my time constraint, to rush back cook dinner for baby, he finished my perm n treatment under 1.5hr. He was very understanding about my need to leave by 5.30pm

We discussed a little n I told him I would like a natural big wave look. So here we are today with my new perm in unedited shot

Sunday, April 10, 2016

5 April: Moving!

After much deliberation we have finally decided to move back to Sg to save rental cost since hubby still not working. Doesn't look like he will find a job soon with all the Chinese requirements

We just got back from Australia visiting his family and as usual, his fucking sister pissed me off again. Another story another time.

One thing my mother in law noticed n came to ask me privately was "what is wrong with her son". She too thought he has become a different person, impatient, quick to point fingers, sensitive and basically not thinking clearly making a lot of time wasting decisions. I told my Mil that it has been like that for a while n I'm tolerating him for over a year now. Especially the quick to get angry part really pisses me off. A few times now I have to tell him off to let me finish my sentence. 

Since we decided to move back, again he did nothing. He said he will contact Santa Fe n guess what? Ended up with me doing everything. I told him to pack some of his personal stuff quickly as we need to make use of all times, fucking ignore me. Rather waste his time looking at non urgent things like property market in oz, download movies, surf internet n Fb, arrange lunches with frens. Do I want to slap him, of course. 

So I wrote a list of things for him to do n he still procrastinating giving invalid reasons. Told him to update address with banks n terminate gas acct, he tells me must wait till Monday. Of course I was annoyed since Monday will be busy taking baby for injection etc n grocery shopping. I ask why cant he do it today? He says must go bank. I told him why can't do online? He says don't have n must submit form. I login to update my address n told him "u can do it online". Only then he says I just saw it. Then he exclaim oh cannot! No overseas address option. I really cannot take it n told him "yes u can! I just did it!!! The option is right in front of u". 

Then he complain he's hungry n no food. No bread etc. I search the fridge n said there's chicken thigh he can eat. Then he said "but there's nothing to eat with" I was annoyed. I told him "can't u just cook rice with it? U first complain there's no food, then I found meat for u you want to pick n say nothing to eat with?" Silence. Then I added "why can't u eat your cereal?? I bought a new pack for u n there's milk n fruits." Then he went "oh yah"

See what I mean by I have to think of everything for him? It's almost like his brain has shrunk?

Even selling of furniture or talking to landlord etc, he depends on me to do it. I dunno why he cannot do it but never mind. It's faster that I do it. 

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

5 Jan 2016: The "backlog" moronic ex maid left behind

Now that bloody moronic maid is gone, been doing most things myself. Twice a week a local lady comes in to cook lunch which gives me some respite to catch up on other admin things. 

Other than that I'm actually super happy that I get the whole place back to myself! Especially my laundry room that I can wash through the night and turn on my humidifier to dry the clothes thoroughly! With the bitch in the way, i have to mess up my living room with racks and worse clothes don't dry properly since the area is too large to have effective humidifier working. Plus, when I cook, my kitchen is always in clean state. ALWAYS. Not the bloody oily piled up mess she leaves behind. Plus I have to make up for her slackness. She spend 3 hours every night dunno clean what fuck. I spend one hour and to clean areas she never wiped!!! So obvious when I see all the dirt n dust in the drawers handles grooves, bits and pieces of food under the cabinet area, and the exhaust hood. Fucker must be spacing out in that 3 hours pretending to work. The inside of the cabinet doors are filthy in the 7 months she was here. So the last few days had been me catching up on the cleaning load that she left behind. My hubby was concerned that I was cleaning so much but I told him I need to refresh my kitchen. All the chopping boards so filthy so I bought new ones. My wmf knives are wreaked n my scan pan non stick pan are goners.all these need to restock. 

Toilets. I need to rescrub them as I realise she has NEVER clean it with the toilet detergents. I bought 3 bottles and they are all there untouched. FULL. She has just been using water and cloth n got knows how often she change the cloth. No wonder I always thought my toilet don't smell fresh. She only make sure there are no mould on the tiles as I check n ask her to scrub and she can't laze on that. 

Bedsheets. Told the bitch to change bedsheets realise she never wash the mattress protector for months! Dear lord. 

So imagine all the backload I had to clear over the long weekend. Of course my hubby won't understand or know the massive cleanup involved. Sigh. 

Despite being sooo busy, yet I'm immensely happy. Now... If only my little one will give me more time to scrub the carpets....

Thursday, December 31, 2015

25th Dec: merry Xmas!!!

It's a little late but Merry Xmas and happy new year!!! Baby had a good day toying with the Xmas tree. Mummy thinks he has that cheeky look that thinks he can get away with mischief....

He had 2 presents this year, one from Uncle Jamie from Oz and another from auntie Eileen from SG. Lucky boy I say!

Sunday, December 20, 2015

21dec: Sleep!

Winter has been so shiok. So nice to sleep in and baby is enjoying his sleep too!! Ever since I let daddy watch n care for him, both turning into late night owls n I had to put a stop to daddy turning my boy into late night baby!!! 

He used to sleep by 10pm or earlier but daddy been letting him zzz at 11.30pm!! I was pretty adamant that it's not right!!! Daddy did it so baby can sleep in later n he don't have to wake up early. I had to intervene when he said baby didn't want to sleep early but I saw baby rubbing eyes!! So I had to put baby to sleep by 9.30pm one night so that I could get him back into his old cycle. Of course that means daddy says he's tired coz baby is back to being up by 7 instead of 9am. 

This grobag by the way is awesome. Little one slept sooo well!! So comfy n the little one loves it! I bought one sleeveless to pair with grosuit and another grobag with quilted sleeves so that he can wear his thinner onsies inside

My boy has my sleeping genes. He can sleep 14-15 hours a day. Some babies his age sleeps far less. Not sure if it's a good or bad thing...

20 Dec: Feeding baby

This cooking for baby thingie sucks up so much time but I'm glad at least the little one seem to enjoy his food. His dad complains he doesn't even get such kingly treatment! Lol! 

There's a bloody long list of food I haven't got round to feeding him. 
The only things I have fed him by 8 months for the last 2 months

1. Avocado
2. COD fish
3. Pork
4. Chicken breast
5. Hairy gourd
6. Zucchini
7. Baby kale
8. Swede
9. Sweet potato ( not his fav)
10. Carrot
11. Pumpkin
12. Butternut squash
13. Ginger
14. Green pea
15. Apple
16. Pear
17. Mango
18. Banana
19. Rice for congee
20. Dried sardines
21. Longan
22. Yogurt
23. Baby Spinach 
24. Egg yolk
25. Oat cereal
26. Grapes ( not his fav)
27. Papaya ( not his fav) 

Things waiting to try when I find time
1. Nectarine/ peaches
2. Cheese / formage frais
3. Bread ( don't fancy the sugar in it)
4. Pasta / macaroni
5. Tomato
6. Broccoli
7. Black berries
8. Weetabix
9. Tofu
10. Beef
11. Winter melon
12. Garlic
13. Onion
14. Corriander
15. Rosemary
16. Nutmeg
17. Cinnamon
18. Persimmon
19. Rock melon

Was shopping in Citysuper the other day and was stopped by his HK grandmother. She kept staring at us when we bought the cod. Then she explained she wanted to know wat I was feeding my boy as she thought her grandson is too small for his age. I was surprised that she didn't seem to know what to feed n portion to feed the child, and she's doing the reading up instead of the mum? Seems like she's the primary care taker. She seemed surprised that I cook my porridge in meat stock instead of plain water. She seemed even more surprised that I added a variety of ingredients into one meal. 

She asked me what normally goes inside my baby's meal.  I told her for lunch and dinner normally 1 meat+ carrot+ squash+ avo+veggie with 1 fruit. Makes up to half rice bowl. Her eyes went wide saying that's a lot. My eyes went wide when she said she only has 2 ingredients and her grandson is already over 9-10months. Wait till she hears how much fruit I put in the morn yogurt... Lol. Even little one daddy is jealous, not to mention saying so much work since he's on baby duty this whole week while I'm Sick. 

The only problem I have is little one doesn't know how to feed himself yet. I have no idea how to progress him to finger food. He takes it, he squeezes n squash them but won't put in his mouth. He only takes food from spoon. That lazy bugger. He was drinking from cup when young but now he got lazy n refuse. When I feed him water via spoon, he will blow bubbles at the spoon n spit water out for fun. He won't do that to his food but water, he will keep playing with it and let them dribble out. Drives me nuts. 

And what's with eating and pooing?!! Everytime I start feeding him in his high hair, he will want to poo. Then I'm stuck between feeding him or change his nappy. Damnit. 

Meanwhile...still thinking about when to stop with breastmilk. Initial goal was 3 months, got moved to 6 months and now it's 9 months!! I think 12 months is too much. Ever since I embark on this breastmilk thingie, my body has gone shit and I keep falling sick. Recovery is slow as snail. I miss my rest hours. Then again, partial guilt arises if I decide to stop when I see him lapping up breast milk so heartily. Damnit. 

My gf told me she faces the same delimma previously when deciding when to quit. Yet after she quit, she said she felt so happy n wonder why she took
So long. Makes me wonder if I feel the same. My hubby is dying for me to
Quit. Only coz it frees up his time lol. The more time I have, the more time he has to Do his stuff. Of course he knows it too that baby prefers his breastmilk..  Sigh. 
Another month then see? 

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

12 Dec: Back from trip

We are Back from holiday and I am now full blown sick. Cough, cold and weak. 

It was a first adventure with baby on plane. So much things to bring and prepare!!! Had to wake up extra early to prep his congee, steam his food to bring to plane and thankfully because he's still young, he was easy. Slept half the flight both ways, drank his milk and then was time to land:)  no cries, just a happy baby. Relief! Even the lady next to us complimented he was such a good baby. 

We took little one to Phuket for his first proper swim in the pool. Worried might be too cold for him but he seems alright though I took him out of the room pool once I saw him dribbling. (He had a cold 4 days before we took off) 

The main pool was warmer and so we decided to let him play there instead. Daddy bought all those flotation devices but he didn't like any of it. He rather be held. I think it's the lack of sense of security. He had a good time at least, better than sick mama. I was hit by mild food poisoning. Then runny tummy, then cough, cold sore throat. Basically just sick. 

But it was good to get away. 
At least little one had fun I think. 

We stayed in Andara resort. The room was by far the best we had stayed. It was huge and bed comfy. They even have baby bottle steriliser n bottle warmer. The kitchen was a proper full kitchen with huge fridge. The only let down I found was the food. It wasn't good and frankly that's how I ended up sick coz something I ate wasn't fresh. Suspect it's the grilled pork neck which tasted stale.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

25 Nov: falling back to routine

Finally! My boy is well again and back to his good old self! 

That means no more clingy whiny boy that needs constant carrying to sleep. He is back to falling asleep on his own after I put him on the bed. All I need is to lay next to him and watch him slowly closing his eyes n succumb to Zzzzz monster. 

I don't know how other babies sleep at 8pm. I guess those mums must enjoy waking at 5 or 6am? I let my little one sleep at 10 or 10.30pm n wakes at 7.30 or 8am. Thank goodness he is back to sleeping through the night again without waking. 

His appetite been huge these days. Must be another growth spurt. He's chucking down like 220-200ml each session. Which is really a lot since his usual prior sickness was average 160ml saved for the morn 200ml when he first woke. We are wondering if it's not growth spurt, then he must be making up for lost fats. He has definitely lost weight after that horrid 3 weeks of sickness n small food intake. Now, he is chomping down his solids and his milk like a champ! 

He's keeping longer awake hours now. Averaging 10 waking hours a day. The best way was to go out n keep him distracted with new surroundings. Then he will be really exhausted when he gets back. Save me having to play with him for long hours.

Meanwhile, I am trying to ward away this annoying stuff nose n start of a cough. It has been bothering me for a while. It's not full blown but it's not gone either. Irritating. 

Another of my gf seem to be struggling a lot with new parenthood. Her boy can't seem to sleep well. Well, it's partly her own fault I think. 

When the baby was discharged, she didn't take my advice to swaddle the baby. I told her she had to Wrap his hands to prevent jerking motion. Just leave his legs free to move. I even recommended the really good swaddle me up bag for newborn. Instead of trusting me, she said her confinement lady tell her don't need to swaddle and she told me that Canada don't swaddle babies. I left it to her n her decision since its her baby. 

Yet few weeks later, she shared that her baby is not sleeping well, always restless n keep waking up coz he gets startled by his own hands jerking. After 3 weeks she decides oh she better swaddle. 

I told her to go get the sleep bag that will keep newborn snug n prevent jerking. 2 weeks later she complain baby still crying n not sleeping well. I ask what happen n the bag don't work? She said baby still jerking and active in sleep. I was surprised the bag didn't work since it worked so well with my boy n another excolleague whom I had given the bag to (her baby had the same jerking crying problem) 

After chatting a while, then I realise she didn't use the bag I recommend but put the baby in a sleeveless sleeping bag. 
*face palm* how will sleeveless bag help your hand jerking motion? Didn't I explain to u already?? 

I replied that sleeveless sleep bags are really only good for 3 months onwards because those are more for preventing them Kicking blankets off rather than for hands (strangely my boy likes his blanket. Lol) 

So after close to 1.5month, my gf n her hubby are still experimenting n mucking around instead of just heeding my advice to get the tried n tested product for their problem. She remarked "your baby is really so much easier to look after than mine"

I didn't tell her coz I don't wait around till the problem manifest into a sleep problem! I mean a sleepless baby has got to be a cranky one right?! 

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

18 Nov: decision...

Spoke to my man about maid's request to let her continue working. 

We thought about it and debate the pros and cons. My personal stance is to release her but my hubby is more reluctant because he said I won't be able to cope with an increasingly demanding boy. He raised the issue of cooking and buying groceries and cleaning up after cooking. He said he doesn't have bandwidth to do all that. Even if we hire part time at hk70 an hour, it's gonna be very ex. But most of all, he said having gone thru 2 weeks of hell with baby refusing to sleep at night n both of us sick, it is handy to keep her on hand till we can find someone better.

But of course he recognise n agreed with the fact that this maid has broken out trust n that she frustrates us n it's something worth factoring in. She will undeniably revert to her ownself once she cannot cope if there's a slight change of norm.

So my husband propose to keep her with last warning, that the next time she throw tantrum, there will be no Speeches or conversation. Out of the house she goes immediately. Also, we will lay down terms that if we decide to hire additional help, she will shut up n don't complain n just work along. If she's not happy she can leave. 

It's not ideal but well I guess I have to try it out. No choice since unlike sg where hawker centered aplenty, HK is tougher where I live in central. I don't want to be spending hk200 every meal to eat out. 


Monday, November 16, 2015

16 Nov: say what? More sickness!??!

I really can't catch a break can I? 

Just when I thought my little boy was getting better after the mild scare of seeing mucous in his poo, he's down with fricking Roseola infantum! 

The other night, had to take him to hospital out patient coz he was crying from 12-4.30am. Couldn't tell what was wrong. 

Those GP are really no good. Prescribe something baby unfriendly for my little one. Took baby to see PD the next day as PD was concerned about his sudden high fever at 39 degree n mucous poo etc and called me. He wanted to be sure it wasn't something else (can't rem the name but something about swollen testicles) 

Today while my hubby was changing diapers, my mil saw the red rash on body. The problem with hubby being colour blind, it's risky coz he can't see red spots or red rash or cuts etc. Doesn't help that he's already not an observe t guy. Sigh. I worry sometimes I will miss out symptoms coz it's all on me to spot any physical surprises. 

Watsapp my PD n he called back to say not to worry. 

This explains a lot. Why baby has been fussy n irritable the past week. Explains the on n off fever. All those cough n cold were also part of Roseola infantum symptoms. I had a nagging suspicions it might be more than just simple cold coz it was running into 2nd week. Just didn't know wat was it. 

Well, hopefully the fact that baby wants to drink his milk again n laughing again means he's getting better!!! I certainly hope so coz no way I can survive with so little sleep n fighting cough n cold. 

Thank god I repeat, my mil is here. Even when she tired, she still carry little one to sleep. At almost 8kg, even I feel tired but my mil really soldier on. She will wash my bottles for me when I crash n help cook congee for baby when I'm stuck pumping. I am deeply grateful for my
Mil. Some people only know how to open mouth n pester u have kids but won't lift a finger to help. My mil while hoping we will change our minds never once pressured me n yet soooo helpful n caring to make sure I get to sleep. 

I was thanking her tonight while carrying baby. Hubby was heating up ginger tea. I jokingly said if mum wasn't here I will die. Or that my hubby n I will prob be fighting away. 

My mil immediately said "no! Cannot fight over baby! That's something u guys must not do. Anything talk it out calmly, be calm. Don't fight or shout. "

Both my husband n I kept quiet. My hubby was unusually quiet n made no comments. I don't shout. Esp when fighting I usually talk tersely but I don't like to shout. I am assuming mum knows n it's her son she's hinting to. 

Let's hope baby will get better soon. 
I dread to think teething will be horrid!

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

10 Nov: sacking maid part 1

I knew the stupid one couldn't last long if I keep exposing her mistakes. She's the kind of useless emo type who is so self righteous. 

So after repeated days of pointing out her mistakes, she finally call it quits herself or perhaps she thought she can use "termination" to blackmail me. Too bad, I don't get threaten by your stupidity. So I told her I accept. The story goes 

Monday is grocery shopping day and again instead of asking my husband for money, she hassled me again. I got really fed up coz I'm tired n was rushing to prep milk n there she is again, bloody hindering me. I asked her "next time can u ask sir for money and stop asking me in the morn?" It's like she think I'm
Damn free? I ask her where's the shopping list and meal list. She gave it to me and i was fed up again 

After 3-4 days of telling her no chicken, she wrote "braised chicken" again. After telling her 3 days no chilli, she wrote "tofu with chilli" again. Told her just steam fish before and she wrote "braised fish ( which needs to fry first) is she an idiot? Wait. We have established that already. 

So I crossed out every thing and I looked at her shopping list. Again she wrote squid when we told her before, don't buy seafood unless you cooking that day. No where in Monday Tuesday dishes were there squid. There are 2 packs of new eggs, she still want to buy eggs. Tell her buy green vege, she still buy bean sprout and hairy gourd. See what I mean by stubborn mule? 

After I cross out her rubbish list, I left money on table for her. My mil walked to me saying she cooked congee for everyone. I told her to check with maid lunch menu. My mil asked n came to me "I dunno what she is saying she's mumbling. I think she say beef and chicken." "I thought I told her no chicken???? Please tell her no chicken"

I was rushing off to feed baby m take him to see doctor so I didn't bother to question my mil further. Just before I left home, I didn't trust my maid so I went kitchen to look. I asked her "what r u cooking for lunch" she just replied "beef"

Me: what beef? Can you please describe and elaborate how u r cooking the beef. I don't understand you. 
Maid: (silence) took a plastic bag n dump the contents on table showing enoki mushroom. 
Me: so u r doing beef roll wrapped enoki. Can u don't pan fry just grill

Then I left. 
I came home with baby first while my mum go wet market to get fish n soup ingredient. I put the baby to sleep n came lunch, I saw braised chicken next to beef. 
I waited till I finish lunch n she was clearing plate to ask "how come there's chicken? I Thot my mil told you no chicken?" My maid said "oh nai nai says she wants to eat chicken" I don't believe her but I kept quiet n walk away.

My mil came back ate her lunch but chicken remained untouched. I asked my mil "I Thot u told her no chicken?"  My mil said "I did. I told her but she say she wants to cook chicken coz the chicken in fridge very long already. So she ask me can I eat the chicken. I told her if she must cook chicken then I eat abit but the rest of family coughing and will not eat."

So u see the difference? My mil will not lie. She will not change story. Yet my maid version n my mil Varies n I believe my mil. I didn't confront stupid one. I just mark it down. 

My mil wanted to cook soup and fish for dinner. I was helping her prepare and making her fruit juice for her. I just ignore the useless one. We were in the kitchen happily chit chatting n ms tantrum went to her room and shut the door. I went to open the door coz when door is close there is no air movement n kitchen is hot. To my annoyance, the bitch lock the door. We told her before unless she is changing clothes, she cannot lock the door esp since we also need to access laundry area n our handy tools are there. I knocked on the door twice no response. So obviously not changing. I repeated knock on the door still no response. I was pissed. I walked out to look for maid keys. Just as I found it, the bitch open the door. I walk back to kitchen and saw she paste this huff puff note on the door. 

In short she wants me to terminate her because she says I'm not happy with her work and she is very stress and she is not perfect. She say she try her best. 

In my head I think if this is your best, bless u when u r not. 

So I told her "I accept your resignation. U tell me the dates". I went to the room to print out official letter template from HK immigration labour division. 

I knew bitch expect me to terminate her but I refuse. I insist it's resignation. She stood there defiant refusing to sign saying that she wants termination. I told her she raised the issue of not able to work so she is the one resigning. I will not write as terminate. She will carry on working as I demand if she don't resign. She keep shaking her head saying no, she wants to be terminated saying she wants to find new employer. I refuse to back down either. 

The reason I refuse to state terminated is this. If terminated I have to pay her off during the one month notice if I want her out of my house earlier. If she resign, I only need to pay her till the last working day. If she choose to leave early then she has to pay me back the 1 month notice remainder. I don't intend to benefit her esp when she has been pissing me off. 

She keep saying she's stressed and say when she need to pay for the kitchen sink cover. 

I was irritated n retorted" do u have bad English? Do u know how to read? I wrote if you damage the sink cover again the NEXT time, u will pay for new one. I didn't ask you pay for this one did I?" She cried n keep saying in raised voice "why I pay. I not intentional. It's not my fault the screw came off"

So I replied "when did I ask u to pay for this time? Did u pay? No. Did I take money from you? No. Did you get money deducted? No. So don't you accuse me of making you pay. I wrote NEXT time. I don't care if it's intentional or not because u damage, you pay. It's in the contract. Your job is to be careful. It's your job to make sure everything is in proper condition. It's your job to make sure you are not careless. I just bought this 2 weeks ago and u telling me you cannot tell the screw is loose? You didn't even bother to check. So I highlight to you your mistake now and warn u next time same mistake you pay. Why should I have to pay for your mistake repeatedly?"

She keep saying not intentional and shd don't have so much money to be deducted and I told her "then DONT be careless. If you are careful who will deduct your money? But your problem is if I tell you nicely you don't care or you forget. You don't respect me and my instructions. How many times did I make you pay for your other mistakes? Everytime you forget to buy things, or take things you bought, I have to pay for your bus trip $12. Did I make you pay for the bus? No. But my point is why should I be paying repeatedly for your carelessness? One time 12$. 10 times 120$. I can buy a lot of food with 120$. U are wasting my money and did I say anything to you? No. So don't you dare complain about me warning you from now on not to repeat your mistakes.

To be cont

Saturday, November 7, 2015

7 Nov: Stupid one continues to be/ act stupid

Even if the stupid maid is not tired of hearing, I'm sick n tired of repeating myself. 

HANG the fricking clothes and NOT clip upside down!!!!

The fuckwit still refuse or too stupid to understand the word Hang??? She knows how to hang her own clothes correctly but when it comes to my clothes, she suddenly become stupid and don't know how to hang?? Which part of the instructions "hang clothes with hangers, don't clip upside down" that she cannot understand??? 

I caught her doing it last night but my mil quickly hang it. Today just 5 mins ago, she did it again. No wonder her former Sg employer want to punch her. She deserves it. She is sooooo stupid and stubborn and gives u black face that you really want to slap her silly. It's worse than talking to the wall coz st least the wall don't turn black and give u the irritated look. 

I refuse to rectify it for her. I stand there and hold the hanger and told her curtly "HANG. NOT clip." She stare at the clothes like morons do and then took it from me. God, how can anyone be soooooooooooooooooooooooo stuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuupid????

Anycase, now that I know we are gonna rid her, I shall contain myself for a while longer still our plan B can materialise. 

Stupidity does kill. It can shorten ones lifespan even if not contagious. Now I can understand why some autistic or even normal kids with very high IQ gets frustrated with us average joe. Just dealing with ONE moron maid is bad enough.

Lunch, I had to go out buy congee. Stupid one cook chicken yesterday and even though my mil told her we cannot eat chicken (when she was prepping fish to steam n stupid one was lingering in kitchen to pretend to be useful) , stupid one still wants to cook chicken for lunch. I don't even want to talk to her and just kept the chicken back in fridge. 

My hubby told her don't have to cook for us, we will go buy. She only need to cook vege. 5 mins I walk into kitchen and stupid one wanted to cook rice without even checking with us. Stupid one thinks she's being smart. I stop her saying "don't need to cook rice"

She will pause 10secs then give black face and walk back her room. 

It's ok. Keep walking back your room. Pretty soon u will have no room to go to when I boot your sorry arse out. 

7 Nov: baby is sick again...

My little one has succumb to coughing n fever today after a whole week of his grandpa coughing away at home. Well even I caught the cough so I can't imagine how my baby could have avoided it. 

I have been battling the sore throat, cold and block milk duct which translate to bloody sore boob for a week and just when I was getting better, now I'm Hit by cough. Sigh

Was too tired tonight. Baby wasn't drinking his milk well. He refuse to drink more so we had to dilute pear purée with water to get some fluid into him. He would usually chalk up to around 750ml per day but today he barely reach 540ml and only 1.5 solid meal. Wasn't overly worried but still...I put him to sleep early at 9pm but he woke at 12am. 

I was so tired I fell asleep again while pumping with the pump still attached since 10pm and so my husband stood watch and didn't wake me. I'm quite a regular figure in falling asleep sitting up while pumping for months now. My MIL and FIL were quite concerned about my constant lack of sleep and busy days. They must have had a word with my man coz he told me both mum n dad are worried I'm not resting enough. Maybe that's why he's also been a bit more helpful and with mum to help, more relaxed and stop berating me. Though everyone seems to think I should consider giving up pumping breastmilk so that I can rest more. Unfortunately I'm not mentally ready to stop yet. Don't ask me why but I just feel like I can still push myself along. Stubbornness is an inherent traitmark..I like to say it the Sg way "Die Die also must try!"

My mil while chatting with me today told me to rest more. She gently told me that if I don't rest enough I can't care for baby. So she really try to help me feed him and watch him as much as possible while I pump and prep his meal. She went marketing to make soup for me since I'm tired of the "stupid one" cooking, who has no concept that sick people should eat light food. Well we have already established she's stupid. 

Again tonight she clip the clothes instead of using the hanger. I was quite fed up and my mil quickly changed it to hangers. If my 75 year old mil can rem after I said it once, my fucking stupid maid can't after months? It's moments like this I really wonder if she had a brain at all. 

Any case hubby let me slept till 2am tonight. I jumped off bed at midnight when I heard baby whining and rushed out relieved his dad was already feeding him pear juice. I thought I will go shut eye for another 10 mins but it ended up 2 hours. Struggled out of bed only coz I needed to pump since its been over 5 hours. If I don't do it now morn I will pay the price. 

Can hear baby coughing in his sleep. Sigh. Hope his fever will subside tmw. Didn't occur to Husband to take his temp again but he's sure baby was still warm. I had given him some fever med at 8.30pm. So I'm concerned the fever hasn't come down. Can't sleep now. 

Hopefully little one will be better tmw.
Get well soon my little bub!

Friday, November 6, 2015

6 Nov: smile mummy smile:)

This is the only reason I can still smile when I have to face a moron day in day out. My little cheeky monkey:)