Just for example, he told me the starhub guy could not fix up the hdmi and I said oh I'm surprised as the HK cable guy could do it. My husband just said I don't know. He couldn't find any of the input channels to get hdmi.
I told him there is no separate channels. So I specifically said "ok let me share with you what I know." At the start of my conversation.
"We use to hand input 1 for normal to. Input 2 for cable to right? So when we watch Cable we get all the hd versions."
He looked at me and said which buttons? I said no additional
Buttons, it's the same as cable tv. Basically u don't search for additional HDMI input on your remote, u just get the hd channels on your cable." He said he don't understand n repeated which button. I told him tv remote to press input 2 and then just use cable tv remote to browse. He still don't get it n start raising his voice at me.
He keep asking which button I said no button. I said input 1 for normal to n input 2 for cable right. Then he snap at me to say why I question him about things he don't know. I have to close my eyes n hold my breath. He saw me did that n snap at me again saying why I expect him to know such things. At the back of my head I think to myself, u have that tv for 10 years n you watch cable tv for fucking 10 years and u even teach your parents to toogle between normal tv n cable n now suddenly you claim you never know and snapping at me and asking me why I close my eyes to stop myself from yelling back at you for snapping at me? Where did u leave your brains? In the end, he shouted "since u know so much then u go deal with starhub." I said "fine" he went to shower n came out in good mood. Basically not his problem anymore.
Many more incidents to show that his brain is really shutting down n he expect me to deal with everything. When I try to explain how things work, or what service people suppose to do he doesn't seem to want to know n care. At time he just tell me "I don't want to know"
My HK cooking lady is right. Being a smart woman who knows what to do is a curse. You get taken for granted. Those wives who act stupid are the luckiest.
Some days I just find him very selfish, that only he is tired with looking after baby with my mum helping him while I'm slogging myself to half death rushing to unpack the place because he insists he wants to move in immediately or within 2 days.
I told him it's not possible but he still want to. Even the movers said our load will take months but my husband always think it's so easy since I always unpack within a week but he don't realise it's tough since I have to coordinate with contractors to do repairs from Windows to cabinets to toilets to running around for new toilet seats. All these takes time but he will call n demand why I'm taking so long.
So I have to rush through till my legs were practically sore and I couldn't walk by 3rd day and had acute food poisoning and then he don't have a choice and agree to switch and go to our place to "rearrange" what I unpack with the part time help I got him. Even still, he would call every other hour to ask about things so I couldn't rest either. My mum had to go out buy food so it was thankful my boy seem to know I'm unwell n he quietly play on bed with me instead of his cheeky crawly self.
He says after 1 day yesterday he is very tired n needs to nap today. He doesn't seem to rem his wife is still not 100% well from food poisoning n sore back and still have to rush to market to buy baby food n stock up groceries n half dead walking back with 4 heavy bags. Thank god mum was here looking after my boy. The more I think I really get quite pissed off. Sure he helped but he only think about himself and never thank us but he expects me to thank him.
I really don't want to talk to him these days. Having conversations with him is impossible.
He put our boy on bed the other day n walk out of room to ask me where is the fucking cream n of course boy fell down the bed n cried. I was dismayed n so my first question was "why didn't u put him on the floor mattress?" Because it wasn't the first time he cause his son to fall off bed. It's like don't u ever learn your mistakes?? How many times will it take for u to stop? If I remind u say I nag. If I don't u do things without thinking
Of course he flew into rage n yell at me for that question n say I always blame him. In my head it was like "that's because you always cause him to fall when I told u don't don't don't put him on a bed if your eyes are not on him"
I was too tired to fight n I just told him sorry. And he just went on n on n I got really pissed n so I snapped at him. He had the cheek n balls to ask me "oh let me see what have u done last decade."
U fucker. U think being your wife is easy? U think I fucking sit around at home do nothing just because I clear up all the shit so well that u are not inconvenience? U fucker.
Finally I told him if he thinks he can find a fucking better wife who is the handy man, deals with every fucking household thing, raise his son, do his bills, cook n clean, then he is welcome to go find another one. I told him when I said sorry I wasn't sorry for my question but sorry that he thought I was accusing him to be his fault.
He realised he crossed the line n shut up.
Later he said he didn't really mean what he said. I just said it wasn't a fair statement. He tried to say oh u know I'm happy for u to be housewife and take care of me...blah blah.
Unfortunately words are something you can't take back at times n he really crossed the line and I don't think I will forget what he say this time for a while. I'm truly offended because it only shows he has taken me for granted for so long. It wasn't apparent when it was just two of us but now with his son here, he has shown a side that is not nice that is apparent to everyone including his parents but himself.
I manage to move my whole 3000sqft apartment in 10days across countries. Now, I just need to keep calm and try not to get cheesed off.